Breakup transmute

Why a lot of people try to change them-self after a breakup or a heartbreak?Perhaps, if they would have tried this in a relationship, they would have still been together…

So,the above statement is infinitely broad and can be taken as extremely insensitive, but hear me out. Of course I understand that an unsatisfying event in life is required which result in new perspective and self-reflection.


So, I am not asking you why people try new things after separation.It’s not even the point that we should always blame our-self for the separation.This statement is all about comfort. My vision in this situation is directly related to the concept of comfortness. Being comfortable with oneself and one’s expectation.

So, after a rejection or a separation how many of us have said something like this, I am gonna be new me-means almost upgrade myself to the best. Example-  I’m gonna read more!,gonna start cooking!,gonna learn dancing!, gonna join gym!,do all the awesome things I have missed due to relationship, explore my self which i couldn’t have done just!!because of relationship. We just delay all this stuffs by saying, ooh! it’s too expensive, ooh! it’s full of trouble, ooh! it’s too lame. And it’s not just with ‘activity’ but also with our ‘behaviour’

Back to the point, when people looses bf/gf they literally just try to change every thing like physical appearance,hair cut,attitude,behaviour,acts…

So the question must be asked… If all this transmutes push us then why are we taking this transmutes in a negative way.

It still depends on you that how will you face your breakup. You can get depressed and loose self-confidence and be isolated or get motivated upgrade your-self and come out with a better you.




Do you believe in soulmates?

We live in a city.A city of 600k people. So half are guys and half are girls. So there are 300k guys. So in a relationship you would be probably be wondering to be with a partner of your age so that’s like 3rd of that. So its 100k guys. Now,not only all of that guys are single. Mostly 50% are. So 50k available guys. So out of those how many of you will find attractive,of your type. Yes 50k. So the best you will find interesting will be 100/1 . So that’s 1000/10 and 50k/500. So there are 500 people you are interested in. But are they interested in you ? So lets take 50% will show interest in you. so its 250 guys. But they can even show interest in others but lets not consume that. So there are 250 guys out of 50k. Its less than 1%. How will you find him? So if you found him,then you should not let him go, and if you let him go then you are just reducing the chance to get a soulmate. He is less than 1.


This is my first blog. I am just gonna write on stuffs that i am suffering from  . I am just a 17 year old guy with a pretty simple life. My life is just filled up with awkward situations which are a kind of funny for me in the way i give them intake. i like to entertain people. Crafting stories, blog, jokes are things i can do whole my life but what i need now is, someone to listen